BALANCING ACT

Sometimes when you are in the midst of the silliness of men: exes, crushes and potential relationships you just need to chill out with one of your best girlfriends and gossip about it, obsess about it together, instead of by yourself.

Thanks for Saturday Glynn, I didn't realize how bad I needed a night in.

I have been contemplating the male gaze a lot lately. What is it about modern hetero women, while we can be anything we want, do anything we want, we are still consumed by what men think of us. Is it a pure instinct thing, an animalistic quality, a mating ritual?

Or, like so many other of our neurosis, is it the fact, that while being told we can do everything, we are still bombarded with bullshit images of romance, and finding the perfect man?

As Sex and the City asks, "does every woman just want to be rescued?"

I lived for a long time, unaware that is what I believed for myself. I had (or so I thought) found him, so stopped focusing on things career related, or anything related to my goals.

I was a very bad feminist.

I believe that you can do both, I've seen 3/4 of my sisters do it, and they are rockin' some serious careers at the moment, with babies in tow. They are my heroes.

I still wonder though, my generation of women seem to be really struggling with this sometimes, and tend to go to one of the two extremes: all man all the time, or shutting partners out to concentrate on other things.

Where do we find the balance? It's tricky.

The first step of fighting an addiction is knowing you have a problem, I am constantly reminding myself, that, although they are fun, boys are not the way to define myself.

Right now, it has to be all about me motherfuckas!